[Actionable edition] MOST MISTAKES ARE FORMS OF CLINGING TO THE PAST

Edition 17th

Continuing with the amazing book by Luca Dellanna, we are at the last chapter of “prioritizing your growth”.

Here are the other ones if you would like to revisit them:

Prioritising your growth - Part 1 [action plan included]

Prioritising your growth - Investing time in root cause of your problems

Because our ego investments are determined by our experiences, they are a form of clinging to the past.

I’m not saying that aiming to become our past is necessarily bad, but by examining myself and my story, I noticed the following. Every single mistake I ever made was a form of clinging to the past.

Clinging:

•To who I was

• To what I was doing

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•To whom I knew how to be

• To what made me feel good

• To what made me feel safe

You do not have to be your past. You can be someone else, without anyone having to give you permission to do so.

Authorization to change is mostly an illusion. Most changes that last are bottom-up, initiated without someone else’s consent – in those cases, the consent is usually formalized after the change takes place.

Give yourself permission to change.

Yoga teacher Heeki Park uses to conclude her lessons reminding her students that, as they leave the room, they don’t have to be the same person they were when they entered it.

ACTION:

What would you do if you weren’t obligated to be who you’ve been until today?

This chapter was about prioritizing your personal growth.

This is vital for your success and your happiness because, as you will eventually learn through experience, all long-lasting changes to your personal life will take place indirectly.

You will not attract a great partner with a bold approach and some well-chosen words. You will attract him or her by having worked on yourself so that you become a partner of value, able to attract others.

You will not get a great job by acing a job interview or by asking a favor to the right person. You will get a great job by having worked on yourself so that you become a professional worth being employed by great companies or great individuals.

You have to shape yourself so that your world shapes you in a way you like.

ACTION:

Look for an area in your life in which you feel some frustration and ask yourself: what is it that the world keeps shouting at you, and yet you’re ignoring?

Which implicit rule about how the world works are you failing to acknowledge? Which implicit rule do you wish were different?

Failing to acknowledge the implicit rules of this world will always be your largest obstacle.

P.S. - Hit reply if you need help with these actionable, happy to hop on a call tpp :)

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Shivam